The value of being you: Reclaiming Your Self-Worth
Some days, it doesn’t take much.
A look. A silence. A comment that wasn’t meant to hurt, but still did.
And suddenly, your sense of self-worth slips.
It’s strange how quickly we forget who we are.
But here's the truth:
Your worth is not something the world gets to decide.
And it’s not something you can lose, even if it feels like it disappears sometimes.
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What Self-Worth Is Not
Let’s begin here.
You are not:
Your productivity
Your job title
Your appearance
Your relationship status
Your follower count
Or how quickly you reply to emails
You are not a performance.
You are not a project to perfect.
You are a human being, and that has always been enough.
Why It Feels Like Self-Worth Changes
It’s not your fault if your sense of self-worth shifts with how you’re treated.
We are wired for connection. We mirror what we see.
But often, people don’t reflect you clearly.
They see you through their own fears, expectations, and stories.
That’s not your mirror, that’s their shadow.
When someone dismisses you, forgets you, or misunderstands you, it’s easy to internalize it.
But what they see is not a verdict on who you are.
You do not have to absorb their blindness.
Take Back the Pen
At some point, you have to stop letting the world write the story of what you're worth.
You are allowed to decide:
“I am done asking for permission to matter.”
“I don’t owe anyone a more polished version of myself.”
This isn’t arrogance. It’s steadiness.
It’s the quiet act of coming home to yourself,especially on the days when it’s hardest.
When You Feel Small: Try This
When self-doubt creeps in, try this simple practice:
Pause.
Just for a moment, stop chasing the thought.
Stop proving. Stop performing.Name what’s true.
Say gently,“I feel small right now.”
“And that doesn’t mean I am.”Come back to your body.
Feel your breath.
Let your shoulders drop.
Place a hand on your chest and remind yourself:“Even now, I’m still worthy.”
You Don’t Have to Earn Being Enough
There is nothing you need to do to earn your way into being valuable.
No performance to master.
No title to reach.
No approval to collect.
Your worth is not up for negotiation.
Not today.
Not ever.
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No pressure. Just something soft to carry with you if it feels like the right time.
A Final Thought
You are not what someone else fails to see in you.
You are not your best moment, or your hardest one.
You are worthy in stillness. In doubt. In quiet.
You don’t need to prove anything to be whole.
Your worth lives in who you are, not what you do.
Come back to that. Again and again.
Take care. And stay close to what calms you.
